Cheryl's Secrets to Balancing Thriving Business and Family Life

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0:43 All right, guys, welcome back to another powerful coaching session, this time with another powerful entrepreneur slash coach. We have Cheryl, who's going to be here with us. She's a member of our inner circle. She's also part of our success pod, which is a group of small group of people that we put together and we actually get to coach all of them on the call. But I asked Cheryl to come on here because she's an incredible human. What she's doing is like making an impact in the world. I don't want to see what I can do to help her. So, once again, this is something we're going to have up on the podcast, but if you'd like to actually see us in action and Cheryl's periodic table of elements on her shirt, you can join us on YouTube as well. Ok, all right. So, cheryl, first off, thank you so much for making some time today to jump on the show.

1:26 Well, jump on the show. Well, I would start, but I had that commercial running in my ears. But, okay, I think that's gone. Thank you, okay, um, today, I don't know. Okay, I have the commercial again oh, do you? yeah, maybe you have the the youtube. Uh, on the background I do, I must. How do I have the youtube on the background? Hold, hold on. I'm sorry. No worries. Is that okay? I don't hear anything. We'll go from there. Okay, cool, we'll try again, thank you. So I am, you know, I feel like I am at a similar spot in my business, where I have been in the past and I'm learning all these new tools, and one of the tools that we have talked about is the tracker, and so I'm kind of redefining my tracker.

2:14 I love routines, I'm into routines. Um, they've been very useful for me in the past, for me in the past, but where I'm struggling with my tracker is number one. I love it. So I'm having a hard time like modifying it just like any change, yeah, but trying to. I don't want to say the work-life balance, but that's kind of where it is. You know, I've noticed with myself in the past I've been either very focused on my business and then my job two of the things right and the families kind of fell off. So then I've noticed, I would say, like in the last year, well, two years really focused on the family and having great success there, and the businesses kind of fell off.

3:05 So now I'm like, okay, I'm recognizing both of these and I really want them to come together and I'm having wonderful conversations with my husband about that, who is very supportive. But I'm still struggling with, okay, how do I not, how do I not shortchange one or the other? And I look at my schedule, like in the morning I'm like, okay, I know, morning is my superpower, so I should be working in the morning, but for some reason I'm not. And then the end of the day comes, and then I'm like, and my husband just, you know, we have a non-negotiable in our house that we have dinner together every night.

3:48 So then he's like well, I'm hungry, let's go to dinner. And now I feel like all this pressure, like, oh yes, but I really need to work on this business thing. Can we just wrap that up? You know, and I'm feeling that pull, and this time with my business. I don't want that. Yeah, yeah, first off. So thank you for sharing that. But also, like you're you're it sounds like you're feeling the tug of your core values right when you're. Like I want to make an impact. I want to create this business, I want to, you know, bring in some extra income, but also want to make sure that I'm taking care of my family Right and and want to say, first off, hats off to you, because a lot of people feel like they have to go through this season where one of the areas of their life kind of suffers.

4:31 That's literally what happened to me and it's the reason why I got into coaching is because I started to see that I could have both if I was willing to reframe it and ask myself a powerful enough question to actually be able to find answers on how can I excel at both right? Because, also in my business, when I first started, I was going into how can I excel in business faster, and that meant sacrificing my family, and that sounds like you're not willing to do it, because it's something you've done in the past, which is exactly the reason why I got into coaching, which is why I love what we're going to be talking about here today. Now, what I do want to do is, before we go into like the global thing that I'm going to talk to you about a little bit, at the end we'll do a little bit of mentoring. Okay, I want to actually go into a very specific incident, because I want to. I want to see where your brain is going, because when I see where Cheryl's brain's going, I can offer a different path for her to travel.

5:17 But if I don't know where she's going down that path, like just giving you all of the advice and direction and oh, you could do this to your schedule it's not going to be helpful, right, because we're going to get into what's called coaching, the action line. I want to find what the root of it is, okay, so I want you to take me back to the last time that you had this situation where it's the morning time, you have a tracker, the tracker tells you what to do, but then you said that you're not getting yourself to do it. So I want you to put yourself back in that situation. Tell me, kind of like, what was happening in the morning. Just give me a little bit of a synopsis of what was going on. This is, I would say, yesterday. So yesterday morning I get up and I did a lot of things on my tracker and then I had an intention of I was going to review some calls.

6:10 So I practiced for the practicum Is that a thing? But you know I was like, okay, let's like review, I know, let's review some calls, just kind of, you know, spend some time in that frame of mind. But I didn't. Instead I went to work a little bit earlier than I normally did. And why did I do that was because I knew at the end of the day that I was going to have dinner with my daughter and my husband and I knew I didn't want to be late. Right, I was like, oh, they're gonna know, they're gonna say there's Cheryl again, she's at the office too late and now all women are sitting around hungry waiting for me.

6:55 So I didn't, didn't do that business building activity that I wanted to do that day and I went to work. Okay, so let's go through this. All right Now. What's first off? I what you're talking about and I just want to explain for the audience. You're taking the master coach practicum, so we have a training program where people develop, um, as coaches, which are already certified coach, and then they take a another course to help become a master coach. And you, you're preparing for that, right. So you're listening to the calls, like figuring out what you can do to continue to elevate your coaching skills, right? So, um, I just wanted to share that just in case somebody doesn't understand. They have an idea of, like, what you're doing. But I want to walk you through this, and the reason why is because, um, I want you to see what it is that you are manifesting in this situation, but also it'll give you a little bit of a glimpse of the direction you could go if you choose to go down this path in the future.

7:48 Okay, so you said that you're sitting down and it's time to review the coaching calls. All right. Now, when it was time to review your coaching calls, you had the story came up of like, okay, but I don't want to be late for dinner tonight and have everybody waiting on me, okay, so in that moment all right, I know it's kind of weird, but let's go through this in that moment it's time to sit down and review the coaching calls but going through your mind is like I don't want people to like wait for me, right, I got to make sure that I'm there early. So when you had that thought, how did that make you feel in the moment?

8:37 make you feel in the moment um well, didn't make me feel good that they are gonna wait for me again. They often do so. I was feeling already a little guilty okay yep so when you were feeling guilty all right, it's time to review the coaching calls but you have this thought of like I don't want to be late tonight and have them wait for me you started to already produce this feeling of guilt in your body. What were some of the things that you did in that moment? um. I continued on um my path to get ready for work. Okay, I started to get ready for work. Yeah, I started to you know, move down on my tracker, like I skipped over it. Okay, so you skipped over parts of your tracker. Okay, what did you not do?

9:21 I did not turn on my computer and log on and look for a call that I was going to watch, you know, just to refresh, or didn't open up my notebook. That's another thing I didn't do. OK. Anything else. Yes, I didn't do those things because I thought I don't have time. I don't have the time. Was there any other thoughts that you were kind? of experiencing. In that moment, I felt rushed.

10:03 What do you think that did for you? Feeling rushed, what do you think that did for you? feeling rushed. I didn't want to feel rushed, so I wanted to get out of that. So I was like, well, I'm not going to do this, this is going to take too much time. It's ridiculous. It's too much time to actually turn on a computer and open up a notebook, um, but in today's world I almost feel like it is. It's like, uh, and I didn't want to feel that rushed, I wanted to be focused on this. I wanted to give it my full attention so I could absorb and I could learn, so I could be better.

10:43 I love that heart voice, but we're still in the head voice. My friend, we're still in the head voice. We got a motivator, a fitness professional, here who tends to love to go down the heart voice, but we're still in the head voice. Okay, so let's go through some of these things and let me just offer I wanna see, if any of these things came up, did you think about how you could review or listen to some of your oh, yes, I have thought about that. Did you do any of that? No, I did, I did think about it. I thought well, maybe I can do it at lunch. And then maybe I could do it in the car, but I can give you a lot more stories on why I didn't do that.

11:30 Yes, 100 percent, 100 percent. We'll stop right here. Ok, right, so let's, let's walk through this real quick stories on why I didn't do that. Yes, 100%, 100%. We'll stop right here. Okay, right, exactly. So let's walk through this real quick, okay, so, and then we'll kind of bring it home in terms of, like, what you feel like you're manifesting or creating in this situation. So you have this tracker and you're focused on the tracker, but you don't want the tracker to pull you away from family. I really feel like some deep in here. It's like tracker is bad for my family. Okay, there's like this deep belief in there that's like if I do this and I follow it, I'm gonna pull myself away from my family and we're gonna tweet, we're gonna get in there, we're gonna like unravel that a little bit. But sometimes that's due to the past, that we experiences that we've had with a tracker, and so now we shift the blame to the tracker instead of us.

12:11 Who gets to control how we think about it, how we feel and the actions that we do take, right. And so you have this thought of like, but I don't want to be late today, right, I don't want to be late tonight. And that made you start to already feel guilty. When you felt guilty, you said you stopped doing the tracker, you started getting ready for work. You went to work. You said you skipped over some of the parts of the tracker. You didn't turn on your computer and log on. You didn't open the notebook. You thought I don't have the time, I'm just feeling rushed. This is going to take too much time to turn on the computer and open my notebook and I just don't want to feel rushed. And you pushed it off to later, thinking about well, I could maybe do this later. But you actually didn't do it later. So what do you think in this situation that you're actually manifesting that I'm not completing my tracker and I'm continuing to feel the guiltiness of not feeling my tracker and being connected with my family, like at the same time, yep, 100%.

13:22 One of the things that I wrote down is when I wrote down the story of I don't want to be late tonight, the, the. When I think about the root of I don't want to, I don't want to be late tonight. It's kind of like I don't want to let someone, the root of I don't want to, I don't want to be late tonight. It's kind of like I don't want to let someone down, like I don't want to let them down, or I don't want to let my family down, like I want to be there, prepared when they're there, right. And when you look at, what you're manifesting is you are letting people down because you're not leaning into whether it's the potential that you have in your business, the potential that your business could bring in for your family, so you could do more things with them. And so this whole thought of like oh, if I do this, I'm going to let people down, you actually start going out there in kind of like manifesting that to a degree, because you're not reaching your full potential, which is leading you down that path.

14:11 Can you see how that happens? Yes. So so I have a question for you Like I know you know this, but I like to ask this of coaches so they can verbalize it out loud is why do you think you're there? It's time to do the tracker right? Why do you think your mind is trying to sell you on the belief of I just don't want to be late tonight, or the deeper one of like I don't want to let people down? Why? do you think that is Because I've done it before? Ooh, tell me about that. I feel like I let them down often because I'm talking about my J-O-B now.

15:02 My J-O-B in the past has just taken over my life, and the main reason for that is I was the main soul of income for my family for about 15 to 18 years. So if I didn't go to work, I didn't be that high performer at work and keep the job and try to get those promotions or raises or whatever. My family would not, you know, live, you know, or whatever. So it was almost like I wouldn't dive into that job, like I'd live it and then everything else on the outside. Like I, I would be there for family activities, I would be there for the girls and go to their games and do whatever, um, but I was always had one foot in the job.

15:51 Yeah, so, and I'm working to not do that. Yes. You know, a lot of things have changed, and I recognize it, and so that's why I brought it up, because I don't want to do that anymore. Yeah, yeah, and I'm so glad that you brought that here. And the reason why is because if you talk to most business coaches or coaches who would do what's called coach the action line, they'll give you all the actions to take so that you like what they believe, so that you have the path to be able to travel down, so you don't do this for yourself anymore, right, so that you are able to excel at both of them. But when you have a belief in there that's rooted in one is going to take away from the other.

16:38 It doesn't matter all the actions they give you. You're either going to take away from your work and your business or take away from your family, because your brain is like it's too hard to have to think through how can I excel at both of these? It's too hard to have to think through how can I excel at both of these. It's much easier to just believe what I currently believe and say I can excel over here or I can excel over here, and so what our brain will kind of get us to do is it will get us to not want to feel a certain way about like attacking things, like in business, and doing all of those things that made me feel uncomfortable, and it'll be like, oh, cheryl, remember what you did last time.

17:19 Don't you dare do that because your family is so important. And then it feels good to go, oh OK. Yes, I'll stop early because I love my family so much, but it's really tricking you into thinking that you can only excel at one. But there's this beautiful place all right, we call it our hard voice which actually says that you can do both. Right, and I want to tap into that with you, to ask you, like, what it is that you can do, maybe even a question that you can ask yourself that will help you tap back into a different energy of I can excel at both of these, and I know you're going to say something right now, um, but I want to hear, like if you were to have a conversation with somebody who was also struggling with one or the other, what you would ask them to be able to help them find the answer to all of that.

18:19 I guess I would ask how I'm thinking. How would I? I would ask them, like how does um? I guess you know what, I'm not even quite sure. I'm trying to articulate my thought. I'm not doing a good job here you're doing perfect. This is the way the subconscious mind, this is how we explore it. We got to take some time right. So I'm sitting here going, okay, what, how would they? You know, what would? How could they change that? Like, what would they do to change that? Um, and I, I want, I almost want to say, like, bring the family into it.

19:06 Like have, whether it be have that you know, have you discussed this with your family? That you're having this tug of war? Yeah, because maybe they would have a different perspective. That would say something like oh, I didn't know, you thought of that. Or yeah, don't worry about getting home right at four o'clock, it's okay, you know, we still love you. You know? Or you know, maybe we can change things up, maybe we could meet you somewhere for dinner so you can get that last thing done. Or you know, yeah, like communicate.

19:50 Yeah, I love that. I love that, of course, of course we're going to talk about like a story that you can tap into, but those are some very powerful actions, especially when it comes to communicating, cause a lot of times we don't even talk to other people about what we're currently going through or getting any ideas from them. And when you ask them powerful questions like that of like I mean, you have a, let's say, you have a conversation with your family and you're like, hey, I just want to let you know I love you so much. And like this morning I was struggling with, like should I finish my work right now? Because I was like I don't want them, like I don't want to let them down by being late, and that's really important to me, right, but I'm just curious, like maybe you have some ideas on what we could do to make it so that I can do this piece in business, but also, like, not feel like I'm letting you down, because when I'm here, I want to give you the same time and energy, if not more, than I do in my business, right, and it would be a great way to have a conversation, but we have to help get to the root of what's holding us back, and think about how we can reframe our hard voice of we're letting someone down or that one has to be at the detriment of the other.

20:53 And so one of the questions I would ask you, cheryl, is why is it so important and meaningful to you to both have a business that makes the impact that you truly want to make and connect deeper with your family, and how could working those in synergy actually make one and help the other excel even more? So what comes up for you when I say that? energy, that's what comes up, energy so even a question of like how could I make my business and family actually? Let's see, let me rephrase that One to fuel the other.

21:50 That helps me feel the energy I need to show up as the best version of myself in all areas of my life. So why do you think it is important to you to be able to? show that way, show up that way, show up that way, um, with the energy you mean um, because I really think it is my superpower, like I think if I have that energy, um it, it just exudes out of me. So when I'm doing you know my business, that they would see that and they would connect with that, and then with my family, they would also see that and be like, oh okay, well, she's here now and she has all this energy to be with us too, rather than maybe being distracted or tired or something of that nature.

22:57 Yeah, I really love that because you're basically saying energy is my superpower and I find ways every day to inject energy into my business and energy into my personal life and my family to really show not only the people that I'm helping serve, but also my family that they're important and meaningful to me and that I'm willing to do what it takes to find answers to be able to excel at both of them. So, when you think that, how does that make you feel Hopeful? Okay, and when you feel hopeful, what are some things you do? well, I would smile actually, because that makes me happy and it makes everybody else happy.

23:40 I'm just gonna say we got a, we got a Marco Polo from you the other day for in the success pod, with a huge smile on Monday, and I gotta say it was contagious to everyone in there, right, including you, right, so you smile, what else? um, typically when that happens, it's you know, um, I would do business building activities. I would share that energy, um passion, um for building my business, if you will. And then you know, I have that extra pep in my step. And so, for example, on Monday, when I saw my husband, I was like, wow, this is going to be a great day.

24:22 What are you going to do? And we had this great conversation on, you know how that day was going to go and set plans up. You know, confirm our plans for the evening before we, you know, went our separate ways for our J-O-B. Oh nice, so you communicated even more. Yeah. What are some things you didn't do? When you feel hopeful, what are some things you don't do? Um, I don't get distracted, I'm focused. I may not know always the right things to say, but I say it anyway. So I take the actions and say them.

25:03 They're not wonderful, it just comes out wrong sometimes, but at least I do it. What are some thoughts when you are having this feeling of being hopeful? You're smiling, you're doing your business building activities. You're sharing your energy and passion not just with your business but also with your family. You said you have an extra pep in your step, you communicate more with your husband, you don't get distracted, you're more focused and you take action and say something because you know that, like you have to put it out into the world before you can improve it right. So what are some of the thoughts that you're having about the action that you're taking right now?

25:43 I'm doing it. I mean, I'm doing exactly what I want to do, which is my business and nurturing my family family and it's, you know, very empowering, like wow, I can do this, I am smart, I am capable. So we are going to go over in our success pod, cheryl, about the whole I am smart conversation, because that kind of struck me as maybe something that the opposite is what you normally tell yourself that I am smart. We don't have time here, but that's definitely something we're going to hit up on.

26:24 One of our success pod calls. Ok, but when you are in this kind of energy where I'm smart, I'm capable, I'm doing exactly what it is that my business demands of me, but also being able to nurture my family with my high energy, you say I'm focused, I take action, I don't get distracted. What do you think you're manifesting in the world? Well, purpose, possibility, love, like I'm loving on my and they they feel that they would feed back on that. Um same thing, like with my business. They're like, wow, that person really cares. I don't know that person, but wow, I can really see that she cares so check this out you.

27:09 Your original start of the affirmation is energy is my superpower. Guess what you're manifesting? Energy is your superpower, see, because when we have these thoughts of like energy is my superpower, and then everything we say after that is just kind of like evidence that we want to throw on top of it to get us to go. And I use my energy to create positive interactions in business and help people change their life and also be intentional with my family, spend focused, undivided attention to show them that I love them. Now we're just like we're powering up what we said in the beginning, which is energy is my superpower, because it is right now. We get ourselves to feel hopeful.

27:49 When we feel hopeful, we let our energy out into the world and we it's, we have infinite energy, right? We're like I'm just, I'm just all over the place, I'm like communicating, I'm like doing all these things, I'm just saying things. I'm not. And the reason why is because we're not distracted, we're not wasting time and we're also not trying to convince ourselves not to do it, cause you notice in none of your actions, where are you thinking like well, I've got this tomorrow, I got this the next day. What if I do this. Well, what if I'm going to be late for this, because that takes up a lot of brain space and power and energy? And instead we're taking that power and energy that we could be using and ruminating and going, I'm going to throw it out into the world and I'm going to show up the way that I want to, and what you manifest is that energy is your superpower and you're just there to put it out, and I know you do this all the time.

28:36 You do this all the time in your fitness classes. It's why you're like all the fitness all the people that you help they want to keep coming back to your class and they love having conversations with you is because you're in this energy. Now it's time to take that energy and ask ourselves, like how could we do more of that when it comes to our not only a time with our family, but also the time with our business? Does that make sense, total sense? Okay, now can I go into a little bit of mentoring now? Because now you have a story right. When the story is energy is my superpower. I use my energy for me, not against me, because my family deserves it, and so do the people that I serve. I refuse to waste any more time and energy like on all of the what ifs in the world, right, and so when we step into that, we now get the opportunity to feel a different way and then we have actions that we can take.

29:24 Okay, but I also want to go down a slightly different path, because here's the thing, like some people will tell you change your mindset, change your life, and there's, it's a half truth, because being able to step into this energy is awesome, being able to step into your hard voice is awesome, but then there's also some tactics that will actually help you in that process. Right, it's like if we force ourselves to get excited about doing something and that something is the wrong thing, it doesn't matter how excited we are. As a matter of fact, when the months and months and months go by and we're like but we're still excited, but nothing's happening is because we don't have the second part of this, which the first piece is the mindset and the second piece is the tactics. Okay, so I want to take you through this real quick.

30:05 I know we've already been 30 minutes. I want to take you through this real quick because I think people will be very, very much helped by this. All right, now, when you go through a situation like we did today, I want you to tap into your heart voice and not your head voice, right? But you might also get to that point where you're like, but no, mark, seriously, if I do this I'm going to be late for work. Okay, I still want you to tap into that heart voice and I want you to say this is trying to teach me a lesson. What is it trying to teach me today? Because here's the thing like, if we jump past all the roadblocks and things that come up speed bumps, we don't get the opportunity to learn the lesson and take it with us into the next day. So if I were you in that situation, I would say, okay, I didn't really work out quite as I planned, but it was exactly how it was supposed to go, because it's trying to teach me something.

30:57 If I were to do this all over again, what would I do differently? See this two-minute conversation in your brain of like, okay, I'm not going to beat myself up. This is the reality. Beating myself up doesn't help me get out of the situation, it's only going to make it worse. But instead, what if I go, okay, I didn't show up the way that I wanted to for my business. I didn't show up the way that I wanted to with my kids. I didn't show up, and you know, work out today, whatever that is, instead of beating yourself up, you just go, okay, if I were to do this over again, what would I do differently? And then you ask yourself how can I use that today, how can I use that into the next day when this comes up again? So, that being said, I want to ask you, cheryl, so, going through that day, if you were to do that day over again, what would you change? What is something you would do differently?

31:42 well, I mean, I think the first thing that comes up for me is um, I would plan better, meaning the item the day that I explained to you yesterday. Uh, I said, you know I was gonna turn on my computer and I was gonna go through my notes, or whatever. I really didn't have a plan. You heard my plan. Yeah, if I had a plan that was like oh no, I'm gonna listen on May 17th, this is the call I'm gonna listen to and these are the notes that I was going to review, then that would have. That could have been something different. That would have said oh yeah, okay, it's time, let's go sit down.

32:25 I like it, I like it, I like it. So, basically, it's kind of like I like to say this like a schedule is kind of like telling your time where to go, like a budget is telling your money where to go. It's like, hey, I know this is going to take me some extra time, so I have to look at my schedule and figure out when to work it in. Because if it's like, oh, I'm just going to work this extra thing into this timeframe that is normally like an hour and I do all of these things, I'm just going to work it into that. It's kind of feels like you're winging, ah, and in reality, you did the things you needed to do. It's just that when you get there, you ran out of time. So now it's a. How can I reflect on this? How can I look at it differently next time? Oh, I can plan, okay. So what if I took 30 seconds or a minute at night to say, okay, what's my morning routine going to look like?

33:09 Okay, here's what it's going to be, and that one minute now is all this process was trying to teach you, instead of what normally happens. Is all of this extra baggage of like see, I knew this wasn't going to work, my business is going to take me, this tracker sucks. I hear that a lot. This tracker, it's making me go crazy and I'm like, no, it's because it's there for a reason to kind of teach you some lessons of what you could do differently. Right, and a lot of people have like emotional baggage I used to too when it comes to trackers. But the way that I think of trackers is like oh, this is just something extra to give me some advice and some direction of maybe some things I hadn't thought about. It doesn't mean I have to do it all. It also doesn't mean that I have to ignore it all and pretend like I'm actually moving my business forward.

33:51 But it's like one of those tools and if I decide that I'm going to use a part of that tool, I'm like all in. But I'm also not the type of person where, if I don't check all of the boxes, that I feel like I failed. Because it's one of these things where it's helping me to learn the lessons that I need to learn. Right, and when we use it as a tool, instead of controlling us, we control it and we say, oh, I only got to this part of the tracker or my business isn't, you know, moving forward in this area? Oh, it's because I haven't been doing those activities. So let me think about what is this trying to teach me so I can do it, do those activities Right, and it's a process of learning and growing. I mean, that's all it is with business, with health, with anything Right. We grow inside first and then the outside gets to grow.

34:33 Does that make sense? Yeah, that makes total sense and it's interesting that we're having this conversation because I do that exact planning the rest of my tracker. Yeah. The exception of my business. Yep, yep, and that's something we can dive into at another time for sure. But sometimes that is the aha moment of like I do this, I already do this, it's just a matter of doing this in this area. And it helps us to even feel like, okay, I got this, because I got it in this area. This is just a different mountain, is the current one I'm climbing, so it's kind of feels hard, but in reality I already know the steps that it takes to get there, right, yep to get there right. Yep, Okay. One final question, and that is when you think about this session and you think about the things we talked about, is there something maybe I would say like a takeaway, was there something that you feel like was your biggest takeaway from this session, and how can we commit to taking action or reminding ourselves of that moving forward?

35:35 Well, I actually have two things that popped out at me. One was the energy that I recognized that I could bring to both of those, either my JLB and my family, and it just kind of it excites me to think where that could take us, my family, my business, whatever. So that was one. And then two was yeah, you know, I could just communicate this. I don't have to, I don't have to come up with all the answers on how the day will go or the tracker.

36:18 I could lean on my daughter, who's here now, but ultimately my husband say hey, let's figure this out. So it works and is not, if you will, I don't say hurting me, but I feel like it's holding me back. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Um, I love both of those pieces. The second piece that you said there, um, I just kind of want to sign off with this and that is like sometimes, when we're struggling with something and we really want to connect with our family or significant others or just another human, one of the greatest things we can do is bring it to their awareness, because it actually creates more connection in the process of talking about it than it would in your head.

37:01 Meaning, if you have a conversation with them and you say this is so important to me that it's been actually kind of feels like it's been on my mind all this time. Because you are really important to me, the kids are important to me and us having this connection time is important to me enough that I had to bring it up on a coaching session today because I need to get some help, and I would love it if you could give me some advice and feedback too, because I want to show up as the best version of me for you as well, because you deserve my energy just as much as my business does. Think about the relationship and connection that you have because you went through that struggle that you would have never been able to have if you hadn't, and when you realize that that is a superpower that you can use.

37:43 I heard this quote during one of my Dad Edge trainings that I was giving, and that was like relationships are most often built in the repair, like that's when you actually get. The greatest opportunity is to rebuild things during the repair. That's where you really get to show people that they're very important and meaningful to you, and you do that if you're willing to communicate and have this kind of conversation. So, cheryl, I hope that was helpful. I'm so thankful to have you not only in our success pod but in our inner circle, and, being the type of person that you are, you elevate everybody all the time, always around you. So I just want to say thank you for that, thank you for giving us your energy, and thank you for giving our podcast and our YouTube community your energy.

38:28 Guys, I want you to go out. I want you to really think about. Number one is what is the lesson that that situation is teaching you? And then always like, really, when you think about committing to doing something, I want you to commit to focusing on your heart voice, the voice, the thing that you can tell yourself that will get you to show up as the best version of you, because that's the person who can solve any problem. Any situation that comes up is that best, best version of you, and it's inside of you. If you're willing to ask the questions, then you're going to be able to find it. So, thank you guys, very much for listening. Keep crushing it and we'll see you guys on the next episode. Bye everybody.