Modern Leadership Coaching
Modern Leadership Coaching is where Marc and Teresa Hildebrand, a 20-year LAPD Sergeant and a former UCLA Health manager, help driven people get out of their own way and reach their next level.
Real conversations about what actually holds people back, how to get your own thinking working for you instead of against you, and how to show up as who you know you can be in your business, your family, and your life.
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New episodes weekly.
Recent Episodes
Oct. 12, 2026
When to Lead and When to Listen
Send us Fan Mail Someone brings you a problem and your brain lights up with the perfect answer. That moment feels like leadership, but it is often the fastest way to lose trust, miss the real issue, and train people to stop coming to you at all. Marc and Teresa unpack how strong leaders choose between leading and listening, and why the secret is not a better script for guiding others but better self-leadership in the heat of a conversation. We walk through the three “hats” most of us w...
Oct. 5, 2026
The Thing You Keep Talking Yourself Out Of
Send us Fan Mail Your brain is amazing at one thing that can quietly wreck your progress: it can take the exact action that would help you and file it under “danger,” “too much,” or “not worth it.” We dig into that mislabeling pattern and why it shows up as perfectly reasonable logic like I don’t have time, I’m too tired, or I can’t risk it right now, even when the truth is that the choice you’re avoiding is the breakthrough. Marc shares a simple fitness example that most of us have lived: s...
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Sept. 28, 2026
The Things You Can't See
Send us Fan Mail The most dangerous obstacles in leadership aren’t the ones you can name, they’re the ones you keep calling “just the way I am”. Marc and Teresa open up a different kind of conversation: a live “spotter” style walkthrough where we practice noticing the hidden beliefs and subconscious filters that quietly shape how we lead, communicate, and make decisions. We start with why blind spots are so hard to see from the inside. Your brain is built to protect you, so it turns old assu...
Sept. 21, 2026
When You're the One Everybody Comes To
Send us Fan Mail Everyone keeps bringing you the same problems and part of you is proud, and part of you is tired. We dig into why that happens and why it often has less to do with other people “dumping” on you and more to do with a leadership superpower you’ve been underestimating. We start with a deceptively small mindset shift that changes everything: the questions you ask in your own head. “Why do I have to be the one?” creates resentment on demand. “Why am I the right person for this?” ...
Sept. 14, 2026
When Your Plan Stops Working
Send us Fan Mail Your plan didn’t fail because you lacked grit. Sometimes the plan is simply finished, and the real work is admitting it before you waste another year trying to “push through” a plateau that won’t budge. We dig into what to do when you’ve been executing, learning, and showing up like a high performer, yet the results stall. We break down a core self leadership principle we teach our clients: you can’t control outcomes, but you can control inputs, including how you show up, th...
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Sept. 7, 2026
When Life Gets Hard
Send us Fan Mail Life can hit hard without warning, but the part that drains us most is often what happens next in our own head. We talk about those moments when life is lifing and the challenge is real, yet the suffering multiplies because we start asking terrible questions, slipping into victim mode, and letting one problem spill into every corner of our day. If you have ever thought “this always happens” and felt your patience shrink at home and at work, you will recognise the pattern imme...
Sept. 3, 2026
Bonus Episode - Finding the Real Problem
Send us Fan Mail You can be disciplined, motivated, and still feel stuck and it often has nothing to do with your work ethic. We’re talking about the moment every high performer hits: you take action, you try harder, you grab another strategy… and somehow the results don’t match the effort. The reason is simple and brutal: the problem you’re solving is usually not the real one. We walk through a framework we use in leadership coaching to separate technical challenges from adaptive challenges...
Aug. 31, 2026
Nobody Grows Alone
Send us Fan Mail If you’ve been doing “all the right things” and still feel stuck, the problem might not be your effort. It might be your environment. Marc and Teresa unpack a simple truth with huge consequences for personal development: nobody grows alone, and the slowest path to change is trying to muscle through it in isolation. We dig into the idea that you’re shaped by the people you spend the most time with, then we make it practical with a framework we use in leadership coaching calle...
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Aug. 24, 2026
How to Change the Inside So the Outside Can Change
Send us Fan Mail “Change the outside by changing the inside” sounds nice, but what does it actually mean when you’re trying to lead better, build confidence, improve habits, or grow a coaching business? We unpack the real, tangible version of inner work: noticing the story your brain is telling, challenging the belief underneath it, and choosing a perspective that creates better actions and better results. We talk about why personal development often feels abstract at first and how it become...
Aug. 17, 2026
How to Help Someone See Something They Can't See Yet
Send us Fan Mail You can see the pattern a mile away and the other person can’t. So you explain it, you try to help, you offer the “right” solution and somehow they get defensive, shut down, or do the exact opposite. That moment is where a lot of leadership, parenting, and coaching breaks, and it’s exactly what we tackle here. We unpack why advice often fails even when it’s correct, and why belief systems naturally protect themselves when they feel challenged. Then we share what works ...
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