Oct. 30, 2025

You Came To Help Others, But You’ll Leave Having Changed Yourself

Send us a text What if the biggest result of coach training isn’t better techniques, but a better you? We open the door to a transformation many coaches don’t see coming: becoming your own best client. By leading ourselves first, we step into sessions more grounded, more present, and far more effective—because clients can feel the difference when you live what you teach. Across this conversation, we trace how self-coaching rewires leadership from the inside out. We break down three core shif...

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What if the biggest result of coach training isn’t better techniques, but a better you? We open the door to a transformation many coaches don’t see coming: becoming your own best client. By leading ourselves first, we step into sessions more grounded, more present, and far more effective—because clients can feel the difference when you live what you teach.

Across this conversation, we trace how self-coaching rewires leadership from the inside out. We break down three core shifts students report: expanded self-awareness that clarifies what you can control, deeper resilience anchored in purpose, and the ability to ask powerful questions that reach the heart of the matter. You’ll hear why clean thinking—holding space without attaching to the client’s story—amplifies impact, at work and at home. And we unpack the subtle but crucial move from doing to being: moving beyond checklists for technical problems to the identity-level growth required for adaptive challenges.

As the lessons compound, intuition sharpens. You stop second guessing, stop over-explaining, and start acting from a steady center. The mechanics of coaching fade into muscle memory, and presence takes the lead. That’s when sessions feel effortless and meaningful, and when the same skills support the moments life demands most. If you’ve already tasted that shift, you’ll recognize its power. If you’re searching for it, this conversation points the way.

Ready to build the kind of coaching that changes you first, then changes everything you touch? Subscribe, share this with a coach who needs it, and reach out to start a clarity conversation about our certification where coaches don’t just learn how to coach—they become coaches who lead transformative sessions.

Interested in an honest, behind-the-scenes look at the lessons we’ve learned by watching real coaches grow? Visit us at:

https://www.modernleadership.us/mastery



Chapters

00:00 - The Biggest Surprise In Coaching

00:14 - Self Coaching As The Starting Point

00:27 - Three Ways Coaches Transform

01:12 - The Real Win: Who You Become

01:20 - Growth From Coaching Coaches

01:47 - What Coaches Didn’t Expect

02:18 - Being Versus Doing

03:11 - Transformation On Autopilot

03:14 - Share The Gift And Next Steps

03:38 - Calls To Connect And Subscribe

Transcript
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What's the biggest surprise that coaches have after growing through this process?

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That's easy.

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The person they become is the biggest transformation of all.

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Many times people join our certification because they want to learn how to coach and lead others.

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And I love that people want to do that.

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But it always starts by coaching and leading yourself.

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So when we take somebody through the process, we help them see how this is actually something they can do for themselves.

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Because when you are your best client, other people will feel compelled to want to work with you.

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So I want to share a couple things that I have seen through our students, but also some of the feedback they've given in terms of how coaching has changed them.

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Number one, they say that coaching has helped change their self-awareness, but also their leadership skills.

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They realize what part of the equation that they can control, and by focusing on that, they can make the biggest impact by influencing others.

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Number two, is they become more resilient, more persistent, and more grounded.

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They feel like they're coming from a place of purpose.

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They don't have to second guess themselves.

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They don't beat themselves up.

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They show up as the best version of themselves.

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So they can model that not only for their clients, but for their family too.

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And number three, is this process actually helps shape you into the type of coach who can ask the most powerful questions because you know what has made the biggest impact for you.

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That's why today's quote is the real win is who you become.

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How have you personally grown by coaching coaches?

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It's definitely made me more patient and grounded.

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But I also feel like as I'm coaching, I have a deeper understanding of the coaching for myself.

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The same questions I will ask of others, I will actually ask of myself.

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And I find that there's a lot of those that actually work for me because I went through that process.

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I was able to guide somebody through it.

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But most importantly, I understood how to hold space and use clean thinking.

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So I didn't attach myself to their situation, which gave me the ability to be able to focus on the things I can control.

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What do coaches tell you they didn't expect to get out of this?

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They thought they were signing up to learn how to coach better.

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And it does happen, but they didn't realize that they could use this process to help themselves even more.

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Almost every coach that I've come across has said this at some point.

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I came here to learn how to transform others, but I didn't know how much I needed the transformation too.

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Coaching is a powerful tool.

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It makes you face your own beliefs real quick.

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So you have to be willing to lean in.

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But if you are, it will change your life forever.

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Why does who you become matter as much as what you do?

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So when I think about people asking me what to do, it's kind of like specific to that situation.

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And it's more of like, what are the steps that I need to do in order to get there?

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And yes, sometimes that's important, but when you're coming from a place of being, you just know what to do automatically.

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You don't have to think about it.

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You just have this intuition about you and you know which path to go down and how you can really help people.

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That's why when you think about like lists and things to do, they're great to put you into motion, to solve a technical problem, but they will present you with adaptive challenges, which in turn you have to become somebody different in order to actually achieve them and then start doing it on autopilot.

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That's what I like to think about in terms of a coach.

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If you have to constantly think about what you're doing, you actually aren't in a state of being.

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But when you've grown through that process and become somebody else different, you don't even have to think about that anymore.

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It happens by default.

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And it's not just when you coach others, but it's when you need it in your life the most.

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Now, if you experience this type of transformation, I really do feel like you need to share it with other people because it's a powerful gift that you get to give them.

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If you haven't yet experienced this transformation, this is what we do inside of our certification.

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Reach out and let's have a conversation.

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This is where coaches don't just learn how to coach, they become the type of person that leads powerful, transformative sessions.

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And not just with their clients, but with themselves too.

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Thank you for diving into these 10 lessons.

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If you need any support, definitely reach out and jump on a clarity call with one of us.

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In our next series, we're going to dive into the moments that changed everything, what coaching really looks like behind the scenes.

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Be sure and subscribe so you don't miss it, and we'll see you real soon.