Dec. 18, 2025

Why Micro Wins Build Lasting Confidence For Coaches

Send us a text The scoreboard says growth equals big milestones—more clients, more revenue, more proof. We think that story leaves out where change really starts. In this conversation, we zoom into the tiny, easy‑to‑miss wins that quietly rebuild identity and fuel long‑term momentum. If you’ve been waiting for a breakthrough to believe you’re progressing, we’ll show you how to find proof in the work you already did this week. We start by reframing progress: small wins are not consolation pri...

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The scoreboard says growth equals big milestones—more clients, more revenue, more proof. We think that story leaves out where change really starts. In this conversation, we zoom into the tiny, easy‑to‑miss wins that quietly rebuild identity and fuel long‑term momentum. If you’ve been waiting for a breakthrough to believe you’re progressing, we’ll show you how to find proof in the work you already did this week.

We start by reframing progress: small wins are not consolation prizes; they’re inputs that compound. You’ll hear practical prompts to spot them fast—like noticing the conversation that felt smoother than it did six months ago or the task you handled instead of avoided. From there, we break down why consistency beats chaos and how a simple ritual—celebrating micro wins at the start of every call—strengthens confidence faster than chasing external validation.

Then we go deep on confidence. Not the hypey, mood‑based version, but the kind built from action before certainty. We share stories and insights from coaching rooms where people start messy on purpose, gather evidence from each rep, and watch self‑belief rise as a by‑product. We also call out a common trap: trying to prove yourself instead of practicing your craft. Proving keeps you stuck waiting for perfect results; practicing gets you better, sooner. As confidence grows, comparison tends to creep in, so we preview how to disarm it by anchoring to process, not timelines.

If you’re a coach, creator, or leader who wants durable confidence and sustainable progress, this episode gives you tools you can use today: micro‑win tracking, action‑first loops, and a practice‑over‑proving mindset. Hit follow, share this with a friend who needs a nudge, and leave a quick review to tell us the micro win you’re celebrating right now.

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Chapters

00:00 - Rethinking Progress

00:28 - Finding Micro Wins

01:00 - Consistency Over Chaos

01:39 - What Real Confidence Is

03:12 - Act Before You Feel Ready

04:30 - Practicing Beats Proving

05:29 - Next Up: Beating Comparison

Transcript
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Most coaches measure growth by big milestones.

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More clients, more results, more confidence.

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But the truth is the real growth hides in the little stuff we overlook.

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So I want you to think back to this last week.

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Where did you show up in your life, even when it wasn't easy?

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What conversation went smoother than it would have gone if you had it six months ago?

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And what did you handle differently that the old you would have avoided?

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The answer to these questions will help you find what some of those small wins look like.

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So here's the reason why we ask you those questions.

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Because progress isn't loud, it's consistent.

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The act of repetition builds identity, not just the results that we finally get.

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Because celebrating those really small wins is what fuels long-term momentum.

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That's why in Elevate, we start every call celebrating these micro wins.

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It sounds simple, but it's what rebuilds confidence faster than anything else.

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So if you can't see the progress, look smaller because that's where it's actually happening.

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Now I'm curious when it comes to your coaching experience, why do you think we overlook the small wins?

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Because they don't actually create instant validation.

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And we're addicted to proof.

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We think that results are supposed to be big, but we don't realize that all of the accumulated wins are what builds those big wins.

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So what do you see shifts when a coach starts focusing on them?

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I see that they stop doubting themselves between those bigger moments.

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Just the consistency actually replaces that chaos.

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So when you start noticing these little wins, you're gonna realize that confidence isn't something that you find.

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It's something that you build.

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So next, let's talk about real confidence, what it actually looks like, and why most coaches chase the wrong version of it.

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So think about something that you were scared to do at first.

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Maybe your first coaching session, your first video, your first day as a leader on the job.

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Now, what was it about that that finally made you take the leap?

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And how has your confidence changed and grown since you did?

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The truth is, is this next area works the same way that it did.

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The truth is, is this next area that you're focusing on works the same exact way.

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And when you've seen that you've climbed a mountain before, you know exactly what you need to do to climb the next one.

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Where am I?

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Core talking points.

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Um I think people have a I think people have this misconception that confidence is a feeling, but it's not.

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It's actually just evidence collected from action.

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Because waiting, because waiting to feel ready will always keep you stuck.

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Every confident coach that you know used to feel terrified.

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They just they just cho they just chose to act anyway.

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That's why today's that's why today's mindset shift is confidence comes from doing the thing before you feel ready.

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Inside our programs, we see coaches all the time who build long, who build powerful, long-lasting, who take their confidence to the next level by starting off messy.

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And we make sure that the room is a judgment-free place so that everybody can learn through that process too.

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Now, from what you've seen, what do you think is the biggest mistake that coaches what do you think is the biggest mistake that you see coaches make when chasing confidence?

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I think it's that they think that it's they think that it's about pivoting instead of just practicing.

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Yeah, I like that.

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I think I might riff on that a little bit.

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Okay, go ahead.

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Because I don't know what I'm talking about.

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You said pivoting, but it says proving.

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Oops.

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But hold on a second.

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Kind of like where you went with pivoting, though.

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Maybe my brain's not working.

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You want to Okay, let me say proving because I think that makes more sense.

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They think it's about sorry, my eyes switching.

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They think it's about proving instead of practicing.

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I don't know what else to say.

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Oh, okay, I get it.

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So then how can a coach create that real confidence today?

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Like I just said, it's about practicing, taking that action.

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The more you take action, the more you can evaluate how you can become better.

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And that will improve your confidence.

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Now, once confidence starts to click, a new challenge pops up.

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It's called comparison.

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You start looking around and wondering if you're behind.

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So in the next episode, so in the next episode, we'll unpack why comparison actually shows up and how to stop letting it steal your growth, and how to stop letting it steal your growth.