Oct. 27, 2025

The Secret To Growing As A Coach Faster Than Ever

Send us a text Ever felt like you’re using the same coaching tool on every client and hoping it lands? We dig into a quieter truth of mastery: growth skyrockets when you stop going solo. Through candid insights and practical examples, we show how honest feedback and a trusted community can expand your range, steady your nerves, and help you serve clients with clarity and heart. We start with the trap many coaches fall into—trying to prove competence by figuring everything out alone. That app...

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Ever felt like you’re using the same coaching tool on every client and hoping it lands? We dig into a quieter truth of mastery: growth skyrockets when you stop going solo. Through candid insights and practical examples, we show how honest feedback and a trusted community can expand your range, steady your nerves, and help you serve clients with clarity and heart.

We start with the trap many coaches fall into—trying to prove competence by figuring everything out alone. That approach narrows thinking, breeds rigid habits, and makes every session feel high stakes. Feedback changes the rhythm. It reveals blind spots, spotlights strengths you didn’t notice, and gives you new ways to meet different client types. Instead of clinging to one method, you learn to choose the right intervention for the moment: a powerful question, a direct challenge, a pause, or simply naming what you’re noticing. The relief is real when you realise the “big problem” was a perspective issue, not a lack of talent.

Community multiplies these gains. Seeing peers navigate tough moments normalises struggle and dissolves shame, so you practice more and iterate faster. We talk about the crucial identity shift from performing to presence—moving beyond scripts and into curiosity, intuition, and steady attention. That shift makes sessions calmer and more effective because they stop being about your next line and start being about the client’s next step. Along the way, we revisit the role of consistency and preview where we’re headed next: the deeper personal changes this journey demands of coaches who want lasting impact.

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Chapters

00:00 - Why Going Solo Keeps You Stuck

00:14 - Feedback As A Growth Accelerator

00:54 - Community Normalises Struggle

01:15 - Relief And Confidence From Feedback

01:54 - Asking For Support Without Shame

02:36 - From Performing To Authentic Coaching

03:08 - Recap, Consistency, And Next Episode Tease

Transcript
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Some coaches try to figure it out all by themselves.

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What have you seen happen when they do that?

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They stay stuck way longer than they need to.

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We've seen that the coaches who grow the fastest have a safe place to give feedback, to give practice, and to keep leveling up and growing.

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Here's why I find this to be the case.

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There are a bunch of different ways that you can help people as a coach.

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But when you're limited by the way that you're currently doing it or the way that you're currently thinking, you can't really think outside the box.

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And you kind of start using the same tool over and over again, whether or not it's working or whether or not your client needs it.

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That's why feedback is like the total accelerator, meaning it's going to help you learn, grow, find out what to do, and put you into different scenarios so that you don't have to try and figure it out alone.

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I mean, there's many different types of clients, and clients respond differently to some of the different skills and different approaches that you take.

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Being able to get that feedback will help you develop the confidence you need to keep coaching, but more importantly, to keep leveling up how you do it.

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Lastly, I find that this is important too is community has a way of being able to level the playing field.

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Meaning you see other people going through challenges, struggling with certain clients, wondering what questions to ask.

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And it makes you realize that it's just a normal part of the experience.

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It's how we become better as coaches.

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Not just making sure that we step into the comfortable rooms, but especially stepping into the uncomfortable ones.

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That's why today's quote is you grow faster when you don't grow alone.

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So what happens when coaches finally get feedback?

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I find that a lot of times they figure out that what they were stressing about was actually not that big of a deal.

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It was just that they weren't focusing on the right perspective themselves as coaches.

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I've seen it time and time again.

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The moment you get that feedback and you realize that you were making it harder than it was supposed to be, there's a huge sense of relief.

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Just remember that feedback doesn't help you just correct mistakes, it gives you confidence.

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And don't forget the part of the equation where they give you feedback on what you're doing well.

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Because once you tap into that, you're gonna realize just how much you've actually been growing.

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So why do you think it's so hard for coaches to actually ask for support?

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I find that a lot of coaches uh tend to think that if they ask for support, it means that they're not good enough or they don't know the answers.

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They don't want to seem like they're struggling or going through a challenge because they're a coach.

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They should have it all figured out.

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But we all know that that's not true.

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We all struggle with our own things, different challenges, and getting feedback, especially from a team of people that has different strengths in you, that will help you grow exponentially.

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So in this situation, once again, it's not really about you.

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It's about the impact that you can make, especially when you lean into feedback.

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So you don't have just one way to help your clients.

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You have a dozen.

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What have you seen actually change for coaches who step into community?

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They stop trying to act like a coach and start becoming one.

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I know it doesn't seem like that big of a shift, but this is the shift from performing to just being authentically you, not wondering what question you're gonna ask next, but instead just tapping into your intuition and asking a question coming from a place of curiosity.

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Once you start doing this, you start showing up more relaxed, more confident, more helpful.

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And the sessions are no longer about you, they're all about helping your client.

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And when you feel supported, you're able to help support others in an even deeper way.

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Now, if you miss episode number eight, go back and check that out.

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We talked about the power of consistency.

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And really how to tap into it for you as a coach, but also for your clients.

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And that leads us to the biggest thing that we learned from coaching coaches, and that is what this journey does to help change you.

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That's what we're gonna talk about in episode number 10.

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So stay tuned because it's gonna change your game forever.