Sept. 29, 2025

Confidence Isn’t Step One (It’s Step Two)

Send us a text Confidence isn’t step one—it’s step two. In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the biggest myths new coaches believe… and how it keeps them stuck waiting to “feel ready.” If you’ve ever held back from coaching because you thought you needed more confidence first—this one’s for you. 👉 Join us live on October 6th for a behind-the-scenes call on what it really takes to grow as a coach: https://www.modernleadership.us/mastery Stay tuned for Episode 2, where we’ll share one of...

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Confidence isn’t step one—it’s step two.

In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the biggest myths new coaches believe… and how it keeps them stuck waiting to “feel ready.”

If you’ve ever held back from coaching because you thought you needed more confidence first—this one’s for you.

👉 Join us live on October 6th for a behind-the-scenes call on what it really takes to grow as a coach:
https://www.modernleadership.us/mastery

Stay tuned for Episode 2, where we’ll share one of the biggest mistakes new coaches make—and how to avoid it.

Sign up and join us live: Monday, October 6 · 7:00 AM Pacific / 10:00 AM Eastern for an honest, behind-the-scenes look at the lessons we’ve learned by watching real coaches grow:

https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/pGbEaMDISeyYH0L13y4gTQ?redirect_from=podpage#/registration


Chapters

00:00 - Introduction to Coach Coaching Series

00:45 - First Lesson: Confidence Follows Action

01:30 - Internal Momentum Creates External Results

03:05 - Coach Certification Approach Explained

Transcript
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When we first started coaching coaches, we thought we were just going to help them help other people.

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But what we didn't expect was how much we were going to learn from watching coaches coach.

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Over the years, we've coached, trained, and certified hundreds of coaches.

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And along the way, we've seen what works, what doesn't work, and what really helps coaches find their confidence and make a bigger impact.

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So we created this series to share the 10 biggest lessons that we've learned from coaching coaches.

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Lessons that might save you years of trial and error.

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These aren't tips or tricks, these are the truths about what it really takes to grow into the kind of coach people trust, remember, and share with others.

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Ready to hear the first one?

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Let's dive in.

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When coaches first join us, we see this all the time.

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They hesitate to book that first call, overthink what they're going to say, and wait until they feel ready.

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But does confidence ever really show up on its own?

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No.

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And that's really the first thing that we learned.

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Confidence grows because you start, not before it.

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And we've seen this play out with so many coaches.

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The moment they take their first step, though, everything changes.

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So confidence is a result of doing the reps, not a prerequisite.

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I want you to think about something that maybe you started or tried for the first time.

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You didn't have all the answers.

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You probably weren't fully confident that you knew what to do, but you got started anyway.

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And that's where confidence came from.

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But I also want to remind you that you have nerves because you care.

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And when you feel those nerves and take action anyway, that's what really builds courage.

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Just know that the most successful coaches, the people that you might look up to, got started, felt scared, and did it anyway.

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That's why today's quote is confidence comes after action, not before.

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So why do you think so many coaches wait for confidence?

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Really, it's how our brain works.

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It's trying to keep us safe.

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It doesn't want us to do anything new or put ourselves out there.

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But just like with coaching, when we understand that that's what it's trying to do, we can make a different decision and do it anyway.

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Have you actually seen coaches gain confidence just by starting?

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All the time.

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I've seen so many times actually that when we get people to start getting on practice calls and putting themselves out there, they actually find that people were out there waiting for them to announce that they were a coach.

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What changes inside a coach once they see that first win?

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Yeah, we talk about this in the certification as creating internal momentum.

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So the inside always needs to change before the outside can change.

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And when you start to experience this internal momentum and see other people who are creating it, it's contagious.

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And the more you grow that internal momentum, the more that the external momentum starts to catch up.

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Now, I want to give you an example.

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So we have a coach inside of our certification, a really powerful coach.

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She came to us back when she was working on her health and fitness nutrition certification.

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Now, if you talk to her, when she first joined us, her confidence was pretty low.

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But I saw some amazing potential inside of her.

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So she joined the certification, started to coach herself, started to put it out there to the rest of the world, even when she was scared.

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And now people are coming up to her, asking her if she can actually help coach the people that they're leading.

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I actually see this quite a bit, where somebody already has some expertise and they add coaching on top of it.

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And it helps create a snowball of confidence and momentum that transfers through everything that they touch.

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And it all starts by taking that messy action scared.

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Now, this is why in our certification we get our coaches to start coaching ASAP.

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We make sure that they build confidence through live practice, feedback, and community, not just learning theory.

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Now, once you lean into your confidence and start taking action, you have to avoid one of the biggest mistakes that new coaches make that actually makes them get stuck.

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And we'll share that lesson with you in episode number two.